Last year was a trying year for me, as my mother was hospitalized and had surgery, and I gave birth to my fourth child at almost the same time. I was pushed to my limit both physically and mentally, to the point where I hated everything.

My mother's surgery was successful, and my fourth child is growing well, so I'm slowly regaining my peace of mind. I had a chance to talk to my mother during the winter Doyo period in January this year. As we talked, I realized that I still didn't like the fact that she had left my siblings and I to go out and work. It was 30 years ago, and I'm a grown-up now , and I'm starting to understand the adult circumstances , but I realized that the feeling of loneliness I felt at that time still lingers inside me.

Minimalism of the Heart

After studying minimalism, which teaches people to reduce the number of things they own and live with fewer possessions, I have applied this to my mind and am conscious of keeping my emotions to a minimum . Whenever I feel anger, jealousy, or envy, I say thank you to those feelings and throw them in the trash.

Feelings that really matter

A little positivity, gratitude, and respect . The basic principle is to be conscious of holding on to these three emotions as evenly as possible, and to discard the remaining emotions as quickly as possible. To avoid holding on to a bad mood for too long and letting it become a grudge, discard it quickly. I have resolved to never let the feelings of "loneliness" I held on to as a child cause me and my mother pain again.

Keep your mind as neutral as possible

For me, the mind is a part of nature. It is a balance of yin and yang, and it can easily lean towards either positivity or negativity. If you are exposed to positivity, it will pull back and become negative. Don't be too positive, and don't be too negative. I learned that if I come into contact with negativity, I should leave the emotion alone until it automatically turns to positivity.

I try to practice mental minimalism so that I can throw away confidence before it turns into overconfidence, gratitude before it turns into dependency, and feelings of dislike before they turn into discomfort, and remain neutral, somewhere between positive and negative.

Like one of Nakahara Chuya's fairy tales,
It has a smooth, silky feeling.