Nowadays, people often tell me that I am a calm person, but I used to be a difficult child with a lot of temper. I still get angry at my children on impulse, but I have become calmer. Since I realized how destructive the emotion of anger is and how it can ruin a person's life if not handled properly, I try to deal with it well.

Not getting angry is a training

Working in organic farming and welfare, there are a few things that make me angry every day. Things that happen with my family at home, or small complaints. There are times when I want to say that it's not really my fault, or why such mistakes happen. Whenever I feel angry, I think of it as a daily challenge that will help me grow, and I gently throw those feelings of anger in the trash.

I have seen that not getting angry creates harmony.

I stopped getting angry because I realized that I don't have much ability myself and that it's important for people to work as hard as they can. Humans hate being scolded. If I get angry, the person may hate the experience of being scolded rather than the mistake itself, and may give up on new challenges. It makes me sad to see the organization become rigid because people are scolded too much, blamed for mistakes too much, and the atmosphere of free challenge has disappeared. Of course, if someone makes a mistake, it is necessary to explain what went wrong, but I try not to let my emotions get the better of me and yell.

Get in shape so you don't get angry

I try to control my physical condition as much as possible on a daily basis. I try to sleep well and eat little so that feelings like sleepiness and hunger don't get the better of me. When feelings like "sleepiness" or "hunger" surface, I think that these feelings are often triggered by unpleasant events and turn into feelings of anger. Just as a tired body makes the mind tired, I think that taking care of your body on a regular basis is the best way to manage anger.

If something happens that makes you angry, it may be important to know the circumstances behind it. I always feel the need to understand a person's whole life, not just their function.

If I get angry

If I do get angry, I apologize immediately for showing my emotions. If that's difficult, I apologize the next day. I try my best to explain things well so that they understand. I think that by repeating the same thing over and over again, I will be able to live a calmer, more fulfilling life without getting angry.